Has pornography sneaked into our bedrooms?

[Osiris]

Has pornography sneaked into our bedrooms?
Love & Marriage by David Dacosta
Monday, June 06, 2005

I have no way of confirming the exact sexual practices of humanity's first couple, but I think that it's safe to say that oral sex played no role in that first exchange. History tells us that sex didn't develop its erotic and kinky qualities until later on in early civilisations of Egypt and parts of India.

Modern day sex has become chaotic. With insatiable global appetite for porn, and the instant access to a plethora of sexual fetishes, via the Internet, sexual practices that were once regarded as a porn star's domain, are now common place in some couples bedrooms. Making the act of sex into more of a copying affair than one of creativity.

The promise of pleasure is still at the core of sex for most participants, while the variety of sexual positions and sex toys used is increasingly becoming more necessary, some sex polls say. 'Normal' sex has taken on a one dimensional and plain label in the ever-changing sexual world of today's couples.

In conversation with a female friend I was asked whether I felt human sexuality was genetic. My answer was yes and no. I believe that males and females have a built-in understanding of the basic use of their sexual organs, however, I don't believe that a lot of the things that men and women are doing today sexually are part of their natural genetic make-up.

The 2002 sex-scandal of R&B heavy weight, R Kelly, brought light to the world of a non-traditional or deviant type of sexuality. Whether the court finds Kelly guilty or not, the fact still remains that a black man was captured on those video tapes.

The question is, what inspired the individual on those tapes to include bodily waste in his brand of sex? I am no mind reader, but I'd be willing to bet that his behaviour can be traced back to either a porn flick or website.

Even in Jamaica, there are more stores around selling sex toys and sexual enhancers, suggesting that Jamaicans are more open to exploring their sexuality.

At the end of the day though what you choose to do in the privacy of your own bedroom is entirely your business. I'd be the last person to discourage fun in the bedroom, but I'm beginning to feel that too much of people's sexuality is rooted in porn, and not enough in their own imaginations. To me sex should be mostly mental but I could be wrong.

David Dacosta is a freelance writer.

[Jill Monroe]

i most certainly agree with the very last statement of this article.. "Sex is mostly mental". without the MENTAL imagery, the attraction..the curiosity about the person whom you want to sleep with...there is nothing else going to occurr.

personally i wouldnt blame EVERYTHING on porn. i think Porn these days isnt as "taboo" as it used to be thanks to the inundation of it on othe internet..hell every other website has a link to porn now and if you dont have pop up blockers..youll be bombarded with em LOL. :haha: i've seen a few porn bits in my time and ive seen a few play boys...but im not one of those people who seems to think REAL LIFE sexual encounters are going to be as glossed and improbable as what you see in the porn clips :haha:

sexuality, like everything else in life EVOLVES...and so what if the first human couple didnt have whips, chains, and role play etc...as people began to explore their minds more...and the things that they found erotic....they employed that in their sexual endeavors.

[Osiris]

What I got out of the article was that images matter, especially as a means of communicating information.

In that regard, I believe that Porn as a specific type of media has had an effect on the consciousness of individuals and how they behave in the bedroom.

[ZorCrow]

What I got out of the article was that images matter, especially as a means of communicating information.

In that regard, I believe that Porn as a specific type of media has had an effect on the consciousness of individuals and how they behave in the bedroom.

I agree with you Osiris. People are more influenced by culture and society than they want to admit. That goes to the advent of pornography it's growth in our society.

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Teens use the Internet an average of 8.5 hours per week for chatting and e-mailing, compared to 1.8 hours spent using it for school work.


An estimated 18.8 million kids under 18-years-old have access to home computers.


Playboy’s web site, which offers free teaser shots of its Playmates, averages 5 million hits per day.


In August, 1997, there were 92,000 sexually explicit sites on the Internet and an estimated 266 new porn sites every day. "Adult" entertainment is estimated to be the largest sector of sales on the Internet.


The vast majority of Americans (94%) believe a ban on Internet pornography should be legal.


UNICEF estimates that one million children are forced into prostitution or used to produce pornography each year. Many are handed over (or sold) by their families driven by the extremes of poverty....The Internet also has given dealers in child pornography a far bigger audience--and anonymity.


We currently have no legal means to protect children from sexually explicit material on the Internet. The door has been flung open wide for pornographers and sexual predators.
I have watched pornography in my lifetime as well, and it is erotic and stimulating, it is purely visual and carnal and it does feed the mind, and give you ideas about sex and sexuality. It has taken the idea of man with two woman, to men with 14 women at once and making it seem normal.





Pornography Statistics


Internet Pornography statistics become outdated very quickly, especially in the Internet environment where numbers change daily. These statistics have been derived from a number of different reputable sources including Google, WordTracker, PBS, MSNBC, NRC, and Alexa research.

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http://www.familysafemedia.com/clearpixel.gif http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Size of the Industry $57.0 billion world-wide - $12.0 billion US Adult Videos $20.0 billion Escort Services $11.0 billion Magazines $ 7.5 billion Sex Clubs $ 5.0 billion Phone Sex $ 4.5 billion Cable & Pay Per View $ 2.5 billion Internet $ 2.5 billion CD-Rom $ 1.5 billion Novelties $ 1.0 billion Other $ 1.5 billion http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Porn revenue is larger than all combined revenues of all professional football, baseball and basketball franchises. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif US porn revenue exceeds the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC (6.2 billion) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Child pornography generates $3 billion annually Internet Porn Statistics
http://www.familysafemedia.com/clearpixel.gif http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Pornographic websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Pornographic pages 372 million http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Daily pornographic search engine requests 68 million (25% of total search engine requests) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Daily pornographic emails 2.5 billion (8% of total emails) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Average daily pornographic emails/user 4.5 per Internet user http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Monthly Pornographic downloads (Peer-to-peer) 1.5 billion (35% of all downloads) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Daily Gnutella “child pornography” requests 116 thousand http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Websites offering illegal child pornography 100 thousand http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Sexual solicitations of youth made in chat rooms 89% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Youths who received sexual solicitation 20% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Worldwide visitors to pornographic web sites 72 million annually Children's Exposure to Pornography
http://www.familysafemedia.com/clearpixel.gif http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography 11 years old http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Largest consumer of Internet pornography 12-17 age group http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 15-17 year olds having multiple hard-core exposures 80% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 8-16 year olds having viewed porn online 90% (most while doing homework) http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 7-17 year olds who would freely give out home address 29% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 7-17 year olds who would freely give out email address 14% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Children's characters linked to thousands of porn links 26 (including Pokeman and Action Man) Adult Internet Porn Statistics
http://www.familysafemedia.com/clearpixel.gif http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Men admitting to accessing pornography at work 20% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif US adults who regularly visit Internet pornography websites 40 million http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Promise Keeper men who viewed pornography in last week 53% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Christians who said pornography is a major problem in the home 47% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Adults admitting to Internet sexual addiction 10% http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Breakdown of male/female visitors to pornography sites 72% male - 28% female Women and Pornography
http://www.familysafemedia.com/clearpixel.gif http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 13% of Women admit to accessing pornography at work. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 70% of women keep their cyber activities secret. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 17% of all women struggle with pornography addiction. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Women, far more than men, are likely to act out their behaviors in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex, or affairs. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif Women favor chat rooms 2X more than men. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 1 of 3 visitors to all adult web sites are women. http://www.familysafemedia.com/bullet-fsm.gif 9.4 million women access adult web sites each month.